I've been dumped before, so I know what it feels like. You have read all of the information out there, but your gut instinct tells you to overlook it or that your present situation is so different the rules don't apply. And at the end you just make the same mistakes you know you shouldn't make.
Here are a few bits of love advice about the most common break up mistakes:
First, they get overwhelmed by feelings of rejection - Have you ever called your ex ten times in the same day, simply to hear her voice again, see why she left (again), or to get closure? I have, and this is not good for you.
Regardless of whether you hope to reconcile with her or not, this is not a good move. It pushes her farther away from you by making you appear desperate. Plus, it just reopens the injuries of split up time after time again making you relive the pain and negativity between the two of you.
Next, dating other ladies to immediately - Let's be truthful here. You're hurt. You want time to recover. If you simply leap directly into the dating scene after a break up, you are not dealing with your emotions from the break up in a good way. You are fundamentally stuffing them down and hoping they'll leave, or you're burying them in a fresh relationship (which will cause problems between you and your new squeeze too).
If you are making an attempt to work things out with your ex girlfriend, do not think that stepping out with someone new will make her jealous and want to come back to you. It'll typically just make her think that you are moving on with your life and she should too.
Thirdly seeing the break as a negative thing - I know splits hurt. They could be a major problem in life. But every ending may also be a fresh start. Try to find the positive side to your break up, regardless of what occurs between you and your ex girlfriend.
Agree with it or not, this is often a great opportunity to turn your life in a positive direction. You are basically free to do anything and be anything you want with no need to stress about how it is affecting your ex girlfriend's life. The question, then becomes, what would you decide to create with your life?
I know that break ups can be a real challenge. Try and avoid these errors and take things in a positive direction.
Here are a few bits of love advice about the most common break up mistakes:
First, they get overwhelmed by feelings of rejection - Have you ever called your ex ten times in the same day, simply to hear her voice again, see why she left (again), or to get closure? I have, and this is not good for you.
Regardless of whether you hope to reconcile with her or not, this is not a good move. It pushes her farther away from you by making you appear desperate. Plus, it just reopens the injuries of split up time after time again making you relive the pain and negativity between the two of you.
Next, dating other ladies to immediately - Let's be truthful here. You're hurt. You want time to recover. If you simply leap directly into the dating scene after a break up, you are not dealing with your emotions from the break up in a good way. You are fundamentally stuffing them down and hoping they'll leave, or you're burying them in a fresh relationship (which will cause problems between you and your new squeeze too).
If you are making an attempt to work things out with your ex girlfriend, do not think that stepping out with someone new will make her jealous and want to come back to you. It'll typically just make her think that you are moving on with your life and she should too.
Thirdly seeing the break as a negative thing - I know splits hurt. They could be a major problem in life. But every ending may also be a fresh start. Try to find the positive side to your break up, regardless of what occurs between you and your ex girlfriend.
Agree with it or not, this is often a great opportunity to turn your life in a positive direction. You are basically free to do anything and be anything you want with no need to stress about how it is affecting your ex girlfriend's life. The question, then becomes, what would you decide to create with your life?
I know that break ups can be a real challenge. Try and avoid these errors and take things in a positive direction.
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