So you have been dumped. Maybe you could move on with your life. Get a grip and trudge through work, school, and that kind of thing. But each you log onto an internet website to update your status or see what your friends are up to, there he is.
It is a hard reminder of your split up. Each time you sign on and see an image of him out hitting up on girls from last weekend or one of those nauseatingly cute photos of him with his new fiance (!), it makes you want to just remove your account and crawl under a rock.
Well, what can you do? You can not just become a digital hermit, right? Here are a few tips about No Contact Break Up Rule.
The very first thing you need to realize that un-friending him or blocking him is only going to make you appear petty or like there is a lot of negative feelings between you. If you've got any goal of staying friends or getting together again, this is not what you need to do.
Instead, change your display settings so that you don't get updates from him. You can stay friends with someone in most social networks without being inundated by their updates. You also have to have the strength to not actively look at his account for the moment too.
Let's face it, you want time to recover from the split and pull your life back together. Continually being reminded of him and how he's moving on isn't going to help. This is actually the right way to control yourself online during the following few weeks until you feel prepared to open the lines of contact again.
If you would like to get him back, you also want to carry on using your social networking websites to color a positive picture of your life. Post pictures of you being cheerful and outgoing.
Avoid posting those vague, depressing status updates like "You think you had the last laugh, but karma is real." Not only will nobody really know who this is aimed at, and also seems incredibly negative (not something you want folks associating with you).
So the best plan is to limit your exposure to your ex during the weeks directly following the split. You also need to portray a positive and upbeat perspective online since this will make it appear like you are a upbeat person instead of a downer.
It is a hard reminder of your split up. Each time you sign on and see an image of him out hitting up on girls from last weekend or one of those nauseatingly cute photos of him with his new fiance (!), it makes you want to just remove your account and crawl under a rock.
Well, what can you do? You can not just become a digital hermit, right? Here are a few tips about No Contact Break Up Rule.
The very first thing you need to realize that un-friending him or blocking him is only going to make you appear petty or like there is a lot of negative feelings between you. If you've got any goal of staying friends or getting together again, this is not what you need to do.
Instead, change your display settings so that you don't get updates from him. You can stay friends with someone in most social networks without being inundated by their updates. You also have to have the strength to not actively look at his account for the moment too.
Let's face it, you want time to recover from the split and pull your life back together. Continually being reminded of him and how he's moving on isn't going to help. This is actually the right way to control yourself online during the following few weeks until you feel prepared to open the lines of contact again.
If you would like to get him back, you also want to carry on using your social networking websites to color a positive picture of your life. Post pictures of you being cheerful and outgoing.
Avoid posting those vague, depressing status updates like "You think you had the last laugh, but karma is real." Not only will nobody really know who this is aimed at, and also seems incredibly negative (not something you want folks associating with you).
So the best plan is to limit your exposure to your ex during the weeks directly following the split. You also need to portray a positive and upbeat perspective online since this will make it appear like you are a upbeat person instead of a downer.
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