Breakups are nearly as fun as having your head bashed in on a curb. There is not any doubting that. All the envy, hurt feelings, bitterness, and everything else just makes breaking up one of the most awful experiences you can go through in your love life.
You've likely at least heard of the No Contact Rule, though.
Maybe you have even considered trying it, but the thought of completely cutting off contact from your ex appears too frightening. Trust me, I've been there myself, so I'm able to really relate to this feeling.
However you have got to understand this is one of those times when you have to go against what your instinct is telling you and essentially do the opposite.
Pulling your ex closer to you is only going to backfire and make it even tougher to rescue your relationship. As an alternative what you want to do is completely cut contact. I know it's hard, but try to really get this bit of relationship advice.
This gives you the time you want to bounce back from the break up and get your feelings in order. This is vital because, whether you're pleased to admit it or not, you are probably at least a little bit not yourself these days (I know that I was).
One sound reason to use the No Contact Rule is to give yourself a shot at healing without having your ex there to reopen the injuries each time you've got a fight or you find out that they're seeing someone new.
But , you also ought to use the No Contact Rule for them too. You see they want some space away from you and the relationship you 2 shared. That's why they split up with you. I do not care what they said, that's the one single reason for all break ups.
Well, by backing off and giving your ex the space that they want, you are actually giving them the time that they are asking for to be away from the relationship.
Don't make the assumption that life without you'll be all rainbows and sunshine for them. They may actually realize that they miss you a lot and want to work things out with you. You have to let them discover this for themselves though. You can't "force" them to see this.
So try out the No Contact Rule. I know it might be frightening, nonetheless it truly helped me when I was going through my split up and I believe it can actually help you too.
You've likely at least heard of the No Contact Rule, though.
Maybe you have even considered trying it, but the thought of completely cutting off contact from your ex appears too frightening. Trust me, I've been there myself, so I'm able to really relate to this feeling.
However you have got to understand this is one of those times when you have to go against what your instinct is telling you and essentially do the opposite.
Pulling your ex closer to you is only going to backfire and make it even tougher to rescue your relationship. As an alternative what you want to do is completely cut contact. I know it's hard, but try to really get this bit of relationship advice.
This gives you the time you want to bounce back from the break up and get your feelings in order. This is vital because, whether you're pleased to admit it or not, you are probably at least a little bit not yourself these days (I know that I was).
One sound reason to use the No Contact Rule is to give yourself a shot at healing without having your ex there to reopen the injuries each time you've got a fight or you find out that they're seeing someone new.
But , you also ought to use the No Contact Rule for them too. You see they want some space away from you and the relationship you 2 shared. That's why they split up with you. I do not care what they said, that's the one single reason for all break ups.
Well, by backing off and giving your ex the space that they want, you are actually giving them the time that they are asking for to be away from the relationship.
Don't make the assumption that life without you'll be all rainbows and sunshine for them. They may actually realize that they miss you a lot and want to work things out with you. You have to let them discover this for themselves though. You can't "force" them to see this.
So try out the No Contact Rule. I know it might be frightening, nonetheless it truly helped me when I was going through my split up and I believe it can actually help you too.
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