Monday, September 10, 2012

Get Your Boyfriend Back After You Break Up

By Annie M Paris


Are you hoping against all odds that you can get your boyfriend back after a break up? Do things seem hopeless yet you still wish that you could win him over? Is everyone telling you to move on and forget about him yet you still feel a deep and abiding love for your ex? Does it seem like nobody else can see that you still love him and that moving on just isn't an option for you?

When you love someone, moving on and forgetting just isn't an option. Falling in love with some other guy is impossible. You want him and only him in your life. You think about him all the time and your heart is broken right now and the only thing that is going to make things right is to win him back.

Nobody undertands you and if it was as simple as just making a decision to move on, you would do that. You love him though. Your heart and mind are at war. You know that it would be easier in theory to just find someone else but your heart is winning this war. It does every time. You have tried to do all the logical things to win him over and bring that love that you know still dwells in his heart to the surface but his heart is cold towards you and you're at a loss for what to do. No amount of talking with him or trying to win him over with kindness is working. You know that there are people that get back together every day after a break up but nothing you're doing seems to be working. What do others do to reunite after a break up? The secret to winning him over is to get back to acting normal.

Well, you might not exactly be normal, but how many of us really are "normal"? What I mean by being "normal" is to think back to how you were when you first got together with your ex. Chances are you didn't have to do a whole lot of convincing to get him to spend time with you. You didn't have to cry or beg or plead or play a whole lot of games. There was no trickery involved but you may have had to play it cool if the balance of affection was a little off in the beginning.

You need to understand how things look from where he is right now. Being able to put yourself in his shoes and look at yourself from his perspective will help you to understand what you're doing wrong. While you might be saying to yourself that your desire to do anything and everything to fix your relationship shows that you really do love him, it might come off as a little needy to your ex. All of the attention and desire that you are heaping upon him is overkill and it's actually pushing him away rather than drawing him close. It's a bit of a turn off to a guy when they are not interested in a woman at the moment.

If you truly want to get him back after a break up you need to understand how a man thinks and makes decisions. As you know, men say that they are very logical in their decision making process but you probably already know better. Men are instinctual and they react to everything in their life. They are no different than animals. Someone cuts them off in traffic and they react. Someone yells at them and they react. There is no logic in how to get him back after a break up other than knowing how to get him to react in the way that you want him to.

To leverage or exploit this fact you need to understand how to use male psychology against him to win him over. You need to stop trying to talk to him logically as you might with other decisions or aspects of his life. You need to start talking to his emotions and the love that is buried deep down inside instead of trying to convince him or win him over with your kindness and devotion. While this may seem a little bit tricky or under handed, the truth is that you probably did this back in the beginning of your relationship without even knowing it. You need to move him emotionally so it doesn't appear that you are doing anything at all and use male psychology to make him realize that he does still love you. Honestly, this is the only way to get your boyfriend back, either knowingly or unknowingly.




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