Why does every guy you start a relationship with wind up either running for the hills or deciding you're like a little sister to him? Why is it that as soon as you start to feel that he might be boyfriend material that everything just falls apart? Is it you or is the universe plotting against you and your ovaries? Not that it really matters why this always seems to happen, it has to stop, right?
It's driving you crazy. You just want a boyfriend. Is that too much to ask? It just seems that every guy you fall for winds up choosing another girl or you fall into the friend zone just when things start to get serious. You can feel that he's into you. You're sure of it. Then with clock-like precision, he tells you that he has started dating someone or he sits you down to give you the talk that you've heard far too many times. He tells you that he doesn't feel anything more than friendship for you.
You might not know it but you're probably doing this to yourself. You're nice and understanding but maybe you're overdoing things a bit. There's a pretty good chance that you become just a little too nice. While this might be a bit of a fault, it's a good fault to have and one that can be cured quite easily. It's actually a lot easier to deal with than being selfish like many of the girls that always seem to get the guys that you're interested in. While a guy might find that a challenge and entertaining for a short period of time, you have see these relationships break up almost as fast as they start. So, of the two faults, you are fortunate to be who you are and have the kind of character that is very close to what a guy is looking for in a woman.
You are on the opposite end of the spectrum. When you find a guy that you're interested in and you begin to figure him out and feel safe around him you put everything that you have into the relationship. You don't complain or judge. You're not demanding or rude. You aren't a pest and you're not needy. You try to play everything right because you have lost guys like this before and you just want things to work out for at least a little while.
While you might think that everybody likes someone who is nice there is a good chance that you take it a little too far. When you decide that you're really into this guy you might go a bit over the edge and change. You might become his girlfriend before he's really ready for it. Even though you're not really doing anything wrong, he will feel the shift and it might freak him out. This subtle shift can put you in the friend zone pretty quickly and he might even be baffled by how his feelings have changed. His instincts will tell him that things have changed and, like an animal that subconsciously knows when it's about to fall into a trap, he will react to this change.
The next time you start to get that feeling that things are about to get serious, just relax. Remember that this guy is spending time with you because he likes you. He is starting to trust you and you are becoming friends and maybe even best friends. Often the most successful relationships start out this way and naturally progress towards more intimate moments with touching, kissing, hugging and all the things that make a guy a boyfriend. Try not to put a label on things and just let the relationship be. Enjoy this time and let nature take its course as your new boyfriend comes to his own conclusion that you're pretty cool and that he wants to be exclusive with you and you alone.
It's driving you crazy. You just want a boyfriend. Is that too much to ask? It just seems that every guy you fall for winds up choosing another girl or you fall into the friend zone just when things start to get serious. You can feel that he's into you. You're sure of it. Then with clock-like precision, he tells you that he has started dating someone or he sits you down to give you the talk that you've heard far too many times. He tells you that he doesn't feel anything more than friendship for you.
You might not know it but you're probably doing this to yourself. You're nice and understanding but maybe you're overdoing things a bit. There's a pretty good chance that you become just a little too nice. While this might be a bit of a fault, it's a good fault to have and one that can be cured quite easily. It's actually a lot easier to deal with than being selfish like many of the girls that always seem to get the guys that you're interested in. While a guy might find that a challenge and entertaining for a short period of time, you have see these relationships break up almost as fast as they start. So, of the two faults, you are fortunate to be who you are and have the kind of character that is very close to what a guy is looking for in a woman.
You are on the opposite end of the spectrum. When you find a guy that you're interested in and you begin to figure him out and feel safe around him you put everything that you have into the relationship. You don't complain or judge. You're not demanding or rude. You aren't a pest and you're not needy. You try to play everything right because you have lost guys like this before and you just want things to work out for at least a little while.
While you might think that everybody likes someone who is nice there is a good chance that you take it a little too far. When you decide that you're really into this guy you might go a bit over the edge and change. You might become his girlfriend before he's really ready for it. Even though you're not really doing anything wrong, he will feel the shift and it might freak him out. This subtle shift can put you in the friend zone pretty quickly and he might even be baffled by how his feelings have changed. His instincts will tell him that things have changed and, like an animal that subconsciously knows when it's about to fall into a trap, he will react to this change.
The next time you start to get that feeling that things are about to get serious, just relax. Remember that this guy is spending time with you because he likes you. He is starting to trust you and you are becoming friends and maybe even best friends. Often the most successful relationships start out this way and naturally progress towards more intimate moments with touching, kissing, hugging and all the things that make a guy a boyfriend. Try not to put a label on things and just let the relationship be. Enjoy this time and let nature take its course as your new boyfriend comes to his own conclusion that you're pretty cool and that he wants to be exclusive with you and you alone.
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