Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Q&A: She Doesn't Love Me Anymore - How Should I Solve This?

By Clay Andrews


Q: My girlfriend and I talked and she told me she doesn't love me anymore, but we're still together. What does this mean for the relationship?

A: I won't lie to you with my answer here. This kind of thing is not good. If you're still together then she might still be with you simply because she wants the comfort and are afraid of being single. She's probably with you because she hasn't found a guy to replace you with yet. In order to save the relationship, you need to be firm with her and let her know that you aren't putting up with the situation. End the relationship and let her know what it feels like to live with her decision. There's a good chance that she would want to fix the relationship with you again.

Q: My girlfriend and I broke up a few week ago. She told me she still loves me. I tried getting back with her but she told me she doesn't love me anymore and got angry. What exactly does this mean?

A: She probably told you she loves you just to avoid hurting you too much. But then you probably committed a common mistake like trying hard to contact her. This probably got her angry, making her tell you she doesn't love you anymore just so you would stop bugging her. But truthfully, she probably has a lot of complicated emotions toward you right now. If she's not acting too cold towards you, chances are you can still get her back. Try shifting your focus and think more about yourself for one month. This would make her miss you again as she starts to think that she is losing you. Go as slow as possible and don't act as if you are trying to "win" her back, instead treat her like you normally would another person.

Q: What should I do if she tells me she doesn't love me anymore but I do and want her back with me?

A: I suggest that you start using the No Contact Rule first. Using this trick will let you get your emotions together as well as make her miss you. After not seeing each other for a long time, you'll find yourselves calmer and more rational the next time you see each other and would be much more willing to work things out. Take it slow and don't be too eager in patching the relationship back. Enjoy the dating stage and let yourself re-learn your girlfriend.




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