Thursday, November 10, 2011

Does Life Seem Impossible without Your Old Girlfriend?

By Clay Andrews


Perhaps it's another long night tossing and turning trying to keep those thoughts of "her" out of your mind. Maybe it's another awful day at work or school where you just can't seem to pay attention to any of that dull stuff because the pain you are feeling just makes you think about "her" more.

Either way, your life just doesn't have that very same zest anymore. In fact , you might even say that things just seem down-right hopeless.

Why is this? Here is a bit of information to help with how to get your ex girlfriend back:

Here's the solution.. You're feeling lost without her because you are defining your happiness on external circumstances. Specifically, your defining your contentment on how she reacts to you.

This way of living is only setting you up for trouble because you are depending on things outside your control to define your happiness. No matter what you do, you can't control your ex girlfriend's emotions. Ultimately , her reaction to you or being in a positive relationship with you is going to be her very own choice.

When you cling to her loving you for your own well-being, one of 3 things will happen: you will not get what you want (she will not reciprocate your love), you will get what you do not want (she'll meet someone new), or she'll want to be with you (however this situation may change in time).

As an alternative if you can begin to be responsible for your own contentment, you'll be able to find a way to make it through any of these situations without spiraling into a depression or "losing your mind" if you break.

How do you do this? To start with, find things that you like doing on your own. These could be a pastime, exercising, or spending time with your friends. Either way, you'll start to see progress in your confidence and self-image when you work on doing things you like doing.

This will start to change your focus from looking outside of you for contentment to looking inside yourself to find joy in your life.

This could seem like a small and irrelevant thing, but this really has the power to change your relationship with yourself and your ex-girlfriend too.

That's right, this can help you get her back. You see, you almost certainly know that girls do not like desperation. Well, when you fill yourself up on self-love and self confidence, you'll definitely be getting rid of that desperation and appearing much more enticing to her.




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Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Q&A: She Doesn't Love Me Anymore - How Should I Solve This?

By Clay Andrews


Q: My girlfriend and I talked and she told me she doesn't love me anymore, but we're still together. What does this mean for the relationship?

A: I won't lie to you with my answer here. This kind of thing is not good. If you're still together then she might still be with you simply because she wants the comfort and are afraid of being single. She's probably with you because she hasn't found a guy to replace you with yet. In order to save the relationship, you need to be firm with her and let her know that you aren't putting up with the situation. End the relationship and let her know what it feels like to live with her decision. There's a good chance that she would want to fix the relationship with you again.

Q: My girlfriend and I broke up a few week ago. She told me she still loves me. I tried getting back with her but she told me she doesn't love me anymore and got angry. What exactly does this mean?

A: She probably told you she loves you just to avoid hurting you too much. But then you probably committed a common mistake like trying hard to contact her. This probably got her angry, making her tell you she doesn't love you anymore just so you would stop bugging her. But truthfully, she probably has a lot of complicated emotions toward you right now. If she's not acting too cold towards you, chances are you can still get her back. Try shifting your focus and think more about yourself for one month. This would make her miss you again as she starts to think that she is losing you. Go as slow as possible and don't act as if you are trying to "win" her back, instead treat her like you normally would another person.

Q: What should I do if she tells me she doesn't love me anymore but I do and want her back with me?

A: I suggest that you start using the No Contact Rule first. Using this trick will let you get your emotions together as well as make her miss you. After not seeing each other for a long time, you'll find yourselves calmer and more rational the next time you see each other and would be much more willing to work things out. Take it slow and don't be too eager in patching the relationship back. Enjoy the dating stage and let yourself re-learn your girlfriend.




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Discover How You Can Keep Your Spouse Satisfied!

By Sarah Scott


Females are emotion based creatures and one of men's greatest enigmas in life. Women and men can drive each other mad on occasions but they have a tough time getting by without the other. For who knows what reason, your other half is not happy, there's a few things you can do to help her. Life and daily stress can have an impact on anybody. Maybe the realities of life,work, school, stress, bills, and raising children (and the list keeps growing) is taking an emotional toll on her.

When life gets nerve wracking and upsetting, your wife can feel anything except the type of woman she would like to be--an attractive, radiant and lovely wife. And when your wife begins to feel this way, she may not express it, but she would like to feel attractive, appreciated, loved and valued.

Although it is no one's responsibility but your wife's to feel good about herself, as a husband, you can significantly help her feel a little bit better. The fact that you detected that your wife isn't happy and you want to make her feel better says that you love her a lot.

What your better half needs now is your everlasting support and love. Through your words, let her know how much you care for her, love her and how she is the most significant person in your life. Also remember that actions speak a lot louder than words so be sure to make your actions be as impeccable as your words. I am not going to tell you exactly what you need to do because not all spousal relationships are same and "one size fits everybody" information will not help you.

What you want actually do is be aware of your wife's feelings. You may need to sit with her and ask her what is bothering her and hear her words. Don't try to fix her problems for her. Men are more likely to want to discover a solution to an issue at that moment and where as with women, they just need to be listened to. Your spouse will appreciate that you even realized that something was troubling her and that you allowed her to vent her feelings (women love talking about their feelings).

If you did something to upset her, what she needs from you is to know you're happy to do anything to mend your marriage. If you brush off her feelings or don't follow through on your words, you are not showing her your support and love. Again, be impeccable with your actions and words.

A couple who truly cares for each other's general contentment and happiness are much more likely to beat those "bumps in the road." Being aware of her feelings (and not resisting them) will help you be the kind of man she needs right now... A loving, caring and supportive husband.




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Tuesday, November 8, 2011

3 Ways You're Setting Your Relationship Up To Fail

By Sarah Scott


Your relationship with your spouse should be cultivated everyday. You and your other half have to do everything you can to keep the love between you both alive. Make sure you avoid doing these things below if you need a harmonious, flourishing, gratifying and loving relationship.

1. Overcommitment to Curricular Activities and Stress

Though it's possible (many busy people can still have a flourishing marriage) but extensive and nerve-wrangling activities outside your marriage can deteriorate your relationship with your spouse. Young couples, especially, have a hard time balancing school, kids, creating a business, renovating their house, and work in their relationship. Many marriages fall to pieces when both couples are too busy to spend some time together and cultivate their relationship. This doesn't suggest that you should not do things outside your marriage. Just be sure to find a healthy balance between the activities in your life outside your marriage and time with your spouse.

Are you able to think what life would look like for a husband who spends more time at work than he does with his other half? If he doesn't cultivate the bond he has with his better half on an everyday basis, his other half is more likely to build resentment and loneliness (particularly if he is too tired to talk when he gets home). It's crucial to take time out of your day to deepen your relationship on a satisfying level with your spouse.

2. Are Your Fulfilling Your Spouse's Desires?

Are you a giver or taker? If a relationship consist of 2 takers, their relationship is going to suffer. Selfishness has no place in a marriage. Be conscious of your spouse's wants as well as they should be aware with yours. A marriage where both couples highest desires are met will overcome any adversity that dares to threaten their relationship. On the other hand, 2 givers in a marriage are set to have a successful and flourishing relationship. Most marriages that fail are mostly due to one (if not both) spouse is not meeting their spouse's needs. Think about, do you believe a couple who meets each other's emotional and physical needs have many problems in their relationship?

3. Have You Got Unrealistic Expectations

Many couples go into a marriage with a certain expectation that only sets up their spouse to fail. Ladies are culprits when it comes to this. Many women have high expectations of their partner. The majority of these high expectations are from what they've learned through the media. These women have predetermined romantic ideas of what their marriage should be. Some husbands do this too. Instead they have expectations of a domesticated wife who will do all the cooking, cleaning and household chores in the house. Ensure your expectations are practical. Your not living in a fantasy world where your life is a movie. You are only setting yourself up for major unhappiness if you don't keep your expectations on a practical level.




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Find Out why Contacting an Ex-Girlfriend is Not a Good Idea

By Clay Andrews


If you're reading this then chances are you and your girlfriend broke up, for which I am really sorry. You're probably worrying about how to get her back in your life. You might already know that the No Contact Rule is applied in situations like this but you don't really know how it works. If so then read on and find out why contacting an ex girlfriend is not a good idea after a break up.

I know you're finding it harder and harder to sleep at night. You find yourself riddled with thoughts about your ex girlfriend. The fact is that not contacting your ex girlfriend would be better for you even if you really want to.

If you keep on contacting her, there's a good chance that she will run away from you. Her main aim right now is to evaluate her current lifestyle. If you keep on insisting, you might find yourself losing her forever.

I know that you really want to be with her again. But you need to be aware of just how damaging contacting an ex girlfriend is to getting her back. Your goal right now should be attracting them back in your life.

Remember that back then, your girlfriend used to be very in love with you. Chances are down the road, you went through problems and felt negative emotions which eventually killed the relationship.

What you should be focusing on right now is how to improve your own life instead of contacting an ex girlfriend. For example, if you want to lose some pounds then this is the best time to do it.

The chances of you contacting an ex girlfriend will be lesser as you find yourself getting busy. So when you contact your ex again, she'll be able to see how well you improved since the last time.

By not contacting an ex girlfriend, you are letting yourself concentrate on your life. Did you find yourself neglecting your friends and family during your relationship with your girlfriend? This happens often so don't feel too guilty. What you should do is reconnect with the family and friends you ignored. This will let you create new memories as well as improve your relationship with other people.

You'll find yourself healing slowly as time goes on and by not contacting an ex girlfriend. It's only normal that a break up causes depression on a person. Usually, people after a break up find themselves having negative thoughts which only increases the difficulty of them getting their ex back.

When you're not contacting your ex girlfriend, you are letting yourself develop into the person that she fell in love with in the first place.




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Sunday, November 6, 2011

How to Get the Guy Back When He Wants Someone New

By Clay Andrews


Did your boyfriend ditch you?

I know that this can be a particularly hard thing to deal with.

Certainly, it doesn't make things any simpler when you still love him and he's already dating a new woman.

Now, let me explain you how to get the guy back without getting petty and getting caught up in a cat fight with his new girl.

The first thing you have to know is that you can't do this in effect by seeing his new girlfriend as your enemy.

It doesn't mean that you need to declare war on her though she's surely dating the guy you want to be with. In all possibility, she's most likely just a normal girl who you could probably wind up being friends with under the right situations.

If you truly wanna know how to get the guy back, better focus on what you can control, yourself, rather than attacking this new woman. You actually wanna do your best and stay positive and helpful of their new relationship.

Anything other than this will make you seem immature and superficial. Don't concern yourself about the other woman.

First, she's in a rebound relationship. Your ex-boyfriend still needs to handle his own sentiments from the breakup with you. He jumped into a new relationship right away without processing those emotions, whether you like it or not. It's just a matter of time before those sentiments begin to get worse and he's coerced to take an actual look at them.

Secondly, his new girlfriend is most likely at least a bit insecure about the history that you and him have together. Whenever he sees you or talks with you, her jealousy probably burns at full force.

Keep in mind the secret on how to get the guy back from the other woman is to be beneficial about their new relationship?

If each time he sees you, you're helpful and positive while his new girlfriend is jealous and immature, what do you think will happen?

On top of all that, he still has unsolved issues from the breakup with you, and their new relationship most likely isn't going to last. In fact, because he'll probably be comparing you to his new girlfriend, he may not only break up with her but the sharp contrast between you and her may also get him to wanna take you back right immediately. That's, therefore, how to get the guy back if he's already dating someone else.

The secret is to keep your cool and composed no matter how you may feel on the inside.

This puts you in a better light and makes you become the better option when he compares you to his new girlfriend, which he surely will do.




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Saturday, November 5, 2011

Who Else Wants To Know 4 Alternate Ways To Help A Marriage Prosper?

By Sarah Scott


Remember that you married the man or woman of your dreams. Why else would you commit to if you were not sure your other half was "the one?" It's very common for many people's relationship to go stale after they are married. It doesn't mean that your relationship is over.

Just like with life, everybody has our ups and downs. Same goes with our relationships and relationships. There'll be days that reminds you why you married your partner and there'll be days that makes you wonder whether this is what you really wanted.

Many people go into a marriage (especially women) expecting the relationship to be on "fire" all the time. That right there is an impractical expectation. The person whom you selected to co-habitat with in a committed relationship is not perfect and neither are you. If you have certain expectations on what a perfect marriage looks like, let it go because there's no such thing as an ideal marriage. Marriage will take work and effort to keep everybody happy and satisfied. Here are 4 good habits to get into to help your marriage flourish.

1. Share Experiences Together (Even If It Is Not Your Thing) We all have our differences. We may love doing one thing where as our partner may hate it. Try showing an interest in what your partner likes. I am not suggesting you have to love it but it's sweet to take interest in each other's hobbies. You could be slightly taken aback at how much fun your having at something that you thought you hated. Remember the couple who plays together, laughs together.

2. Make a Routine Out of Connecting Together

Life can be very hectic. That's why it's even more vital to make time out of your day to connect with your partner. Talk it up with your partner. Couples who chit-chat about tiny things generally have an easier time debating about the vital things than others who have a much harder time bringing up the issue.

3. Write In Your Journal

You'll be stunned at how writing in a book can control your anger. When you're upset about something, cool down by writing in your journal. Writing about your feelings is a great way to let go of bad emotions instead of taking it out on your partner.

Many times, stress from life places us in a bad mood. Rather than snapping at your other half, decompress your emotions in your journal. When your irritated and furious at the world, it's so simple to snap at the ones we love.

4. Publicly Praise Your Partner

When you're out with a group of friends or have people around you, praise your partner. It's great to hear compliments about yourself from other people. Think how AMAZING it would feel to hear your spouse brag about you in front of others. Nurture your spouse's self-image. Words of praise can bear as much weight as the malicious words that leaves scars.

When you're out with a bunch of friends or have folks around you, praise your spouse. It's great to hear compliments about yourself from other folks. Imagine how AMAZING it would feel to hear your partner brag about you in front of others. Nurture your spouse's self-esteem. Words of praise can bear as much weight as the hurtful words that causes scars.




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What Do I Have to Do If My Ex Ignores Me?

By Clay Andrews


Getting over a break up is always difficult for any person. The impact of relationships in our consciousness would vary depending on how long and strong it was. And when is suddenly ends, we get depressed as we start to miss all the usual patterns.

Thinking "my ex ignores me" would basically, cause you to start thinking bad thoughts about yourself. You might start thinking that is why your ex left you. These reasons are only true if you believe them. The reason why a relationship ends is actually more basic. Some people think that it simply means they are growing and need to move on. This is a waste of time so you should do the same thing you ex is doing.

Start learning new patterns to make you feel better. Start discovering the world outside of your relationship. You should try asking yourself "what can I do right now that would make me feel content with my life?". Of course, making other people happy is one of your top answers for that question.

Improving on yourself is also important if you want to make yourself attractive to a new partner. Try not going to locations that would make you remember your old relationship. You should try doing something else when ordinarily, you would have been with your ex.

Try going to a place that is completely new or different. Even if you have to do it alone. If you just take a good look within yourself, then you'll realize that this is the perfect time to make changes toward the better. Before, my ex ignores me and then she suddenly talks to me again and then ignores me for the second time. If this is happening to you, tell your ex not to contact you at all. Yes, absolutely. You should actually do that. Saying this would mean that you are the one in control. This would also be better than continuously hoping that they will come back to you. You don't want to find yourself starting to develop the old patterns. So make sure that it doesn't happen again.

One day, you'll find yourself thinking about your ex and realizing that it doesn't hurt. There's a good chance that you will start to think "I don't care if my ex ignores me". When you start feeling this way, don't think too much about getting in contact with your ex. If it does happen, don't panic and be yourself.

After you've gotten over the old patterns and made new ones, you can start being friends with your ex again. Stop thinking "my ex ignores me" and instead work on your life and ignore everything that doesn't contribute to it. Grow and enjoy!




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Weird But Effective Ideas to Get Your Ex Back

By Clay Andrews


I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time right now if you've been dumped recently. Breakups are often painful. But if you wanna rescue your relationship, here are some new ideas to get your ex back that are somewhat strange.

1 - Take Revenge on Them

Are you familiar with Aikido? It's a form of martial art that uses your opponent's force against them. You can do a little breakup Aikido with your ex by truly agreeing with the break up.

Tell them that you're pleased they brought up the idea of breaking up as it's something you've been considering for a while now and that you fully agree that you two should break up.

This is one of the most ingenious schemes to get your ex back as you're defusing the impact of the break up on yourself. They will be left thinking whether their decision is right or not. The truth is that they will begin to suspect the breakup themselves and might strive to prove themselves to you. It's a kind of an underhanded way to get back at them.

2 - Introduce the Brand New You to Your Ex

Don't be surprised if your ex wants you back if you can entirely change your life in as many different ways as possible whatever is the reason why your ex left you.

Make progress on your job, move to a new place, improve your fashion, exercise, and take care of yourself.

These deeds will show your ex a new face of you and offer you an opportunity to reintroduce yourself to them as a new individual and make a new first impression.

On the other hand, you must never change your life around specially for someone else. Exploit the breakup as a reality check to stimulate you to smoothen things if you know that you have to be serious about your career or health or other things. However, never change yourself specially for another person.

3 - Apply the No Contact Rule

Another ingenious scheme to get your ex back is to absolutely cut contact with them. Thus, you probably think that the No Contact Rule isn't exactly radical here, but you'd be surprised that many people don't actually use it.

You should cut off all contact with your ex for one month when applying the No Contact Rule. This lets your ex truly live with the outcomes of not having you in their life and it provides you with the time to heal your own hurt from the breakup.

Though the No Contact rule may be counter intuitive, it truly can open up many chances where it may have seemed like you just experienced refusal and stonewalling from your ex. Thus, if you haven't already tried it, please do.




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Usual Relationship Problems that can be solved

By Alex Shant


There are certain problems in a relationship that should be avoided. These problems are hard to solve but are solvable. These are the problems you should avoid on the early stage of the relationship.

The most usual problem is losing the fire. This is a problem because once you lose the fire with your love; everything else will dissolve with it. It means you won't have inspiration to go forward with the relationship. In order to solve this problem, you should date once in a while and have a romantic night together. Always have time with each other to bring a steady romance.

The next common problem in a relationship is when you start to be Indecent. This is a problem because you will lose your boundaries. Every relationship should have boundaries set. Once you lose this boundary, you will also lose your mystery and your relationship will be boring. Solve this by being decent.

Another problem is time. You should always have time for your man. If you won't have time, he may wary away with another woman. Try to have some time even for just a few hours in a day and the whole day during weekends. Go to the mall and take some time to shop. Go to the salon and change your look once in a while. Through this, you will give your partner an element of surprise and prevent boredom.

The most usual and important problem to avoid is Trust. Never get to the point when you and your partner will lose each other's trust. Never be a cheater. Infidelity is your worst enemy when in a relationship because it is very hard to resolve. In fact, some trust issues are unsolvable.

These are the most frequent problems in a relationship that you should avoid. Do not worry, these problems are solvable. With the right attitude, you can avoid this. Believe in yourself and be in your partner's will power.




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Thursday, November 3, 2011

Save Your Marriage Now!

By Kyla Giggs


In case you are asking oneself, how to save my marriage, then you may feel as though your relationship is doomed for failure. In the event you decide to maintain your marriage together, you will be in a position to preserve your family members alive and avoid emotional damage. Even so, you must also know when it's time to let go.

The initial step in saving a broken marriage is addressing the wrong in a marriage. Many times, when a marriage is falling apart is since the couple just isn't spending sufficient time together. If this is the case, you and your mate have to make time for 1 one more. It might help for you to go back to when you 1st began dating. Doing something like cuddling and watching a movie together can repair a damaged marriage.

It's also extremely crucial which you and your spouse get involved in 1 another's lives. Ask your husband or wife questions about his or her day, take walks together and share every single other's likes and dislikes. Get to know your mate like you two are meeting for the first time.. You are able to rekindle old feelings of romance by re-introducing yourself to your spouse.

Many individuals are under the misconception that getting a baby will save a failing marriage. This really is not always true since babies are time-consuming and they are also costly. Consequently, your spouse may possibly need to invest more time working and you could be residence using the baby far more. Youngsters are great and it truly is genuinely a magical knowledge to bring a child into the world. Nevertheless, a baby cannot solve problems in a marriage.

These days, it appears like folks wish to file for divorce as soon as trouble arises in their marriage. Should you be having issues in your marriage, you need to not throw inside the towel with out attempting to solve them. You are able to save your marriage if the issues are talked about and resolved. If you're able to repair the difficulties within your relationship, you'll be able to take pleasure in a lengthy and pleased life with the man or woman which you adore.




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How to Win a Guy Back- Foolproof 3 Phase Process

By Clay Andrews


Hey, girl! Perhaps, you're undergoing a breakup and I just wanna take a moment to say that I feel sorry.

Breakups can be difficult, and though you probably just wanna stay home and sulk right now, that's not what you should be doing if you want to know how to win back a guy. If you wanna know how to win back a guy, there are really just three phases you must follow.

Phase I - How to Win a Guy Back By Caring for Yourself

Certainly, you don't wanna appear too desperate or clingy. Like those lame guys following you around like puppy dogs in the bar or club, that's simply unattractive. It's not right to make it too easy for your ex-boyfriend. Have no contact with him for approximately one month and spend the time concentrating on yourself. Work out, for example, or do things that you like such as a favorite pastime.

This will assist you to increase a strong self-assurance, study new things, and progress in your hobby. Just believe that your boyfriend will be surprised by your new found confidence and it will make him reconsider the breakup.

Phase II - How to Win a guy Back By Seeing Him Again

Get back in touch with your ex-boyfriend after a month of working on your self-confidence and self-esteem. The way to get back in touch with him is to ask him to catch up for something low-pressure and casual like a cup of coffee. For sure, he's more than delighted to know what you've been up to as he hasn't seen you for one month. Just enjoy it like your first date. Just loosen up and enjoy being with him. Keep positive and upbeat vibe of the interaction.

Keep dating him and have more memorable experiences together after this first date. Tell him you wanna give the relationship another opportunity when the time is right.

Phase III - How to Win a Guy Back By Improving the Relationship

A lot of people forget this step, but unless you alter how the relationship was before, you'll be fated to break up again. Evade the things that had led the two of you to the breakup and keep focusing on the enhancement of your own confidence and esteem. Hence, after a break up, that's what you should do to save your relationship and get your ex boyfriend back. While this is only a broad-strokes overview of the process, that's truly all there is to it.




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The Hard Thing Of Getting Over An Affair

By Kyla Giggs


Figuring out the way to get over an affair which you can move on along with your life might be quite tough at times. You will need to remember that you stay away from negative thoughts since they are going to take over your life. Here are some tips to help you put your life back together to ensure that you can move on:

Is important to keep in mind that you might be not best. Every single marriage is going to have difficulties from time to time. There is no probable way that you can control the actions of your partner. Even so, you'll be able to give yourself the help of game that you need to make oneself a stronger person of one's spouse will have a desire to come back.

It is important to keep in mind that you do not let this get you down. Folks make themselves seriously sick simply because they are worried about their marriage. Even so, this is only going to make items worse. You need to attempt do distract your mind with happy thoughts.

Take into account asking your spouse if they would be willing to join you in marriage counseling. This really is a fantastic strategy to get an outside view of one's life. You've got to be willing to accept constructive criticism to ensure that you can enhance your marriage.

Both folks within the marriage must be willing to no longer be about folks of the opposite sex. Soon after all, following an affair has occurred, all the trust inside the marriage will likely be flushed down the toilet. It's very challenging to gain back some believe that was as soon as lost. Set boundaries with men and women of the opposite sex and stick to them.

Make an effort to see your partner's point of view. Even when you no longer trust them, you need to function hard to regain the relationship. This really is not going to be easy however it will undoubtedly be worth it when every little thing is going to when once again.

Learning how to get over an affair might be fairly hard. Nevertheless, should you follow the steps, you can learn specifically what you should do to make the troubles inside your marriage disappear.




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