Know that feeling when you see a gorgeous girl that you really want to approach, but you don't know what I say?
Wouldn't it be great if you could have just gone up to her confidently, and said the right thing that would have her fascinated and excited by you, instantly?
What you actually did instead though, was...nothing.
Instead you stayed where you were. And you thought about what you should say, if you ever were to go and meet her.
What would she do if I said this?
If she responds like this, what will I then say in return?
Etc.
Unfortunately by now, if you do go and speak to her, there's a good chance it will come off as weird or creepy. Why is this?
Because rather than being natural, you are stuck in your head. You are trying to force a reaction out of her.
When this happens, the woman often gets a feeling that something is off. They can't quite tell why, but it's just a feeling of 'there's something not quite right here'.
Ever seen a guy acting like he is Mr Confident? All loud and brash? Yet underneath you know he is just trying too hard, because his body language betrays him?
The girls sense this, and feel weird as a result. They then most likely label him as creepy.
So it makes a lot more sense to be honest about how you're feeling. It's also something pretty much no other guy does when he meets a girl!
So if you're not feeling that confident right now, you can tell her that. If you really wanted to meet her because you find her really attractive, but you have no clue what to say - tell her that too. I promise that you will never get a bad reaction when you approach a girl in this way.
What that means is that he approaches her and tells her exactly what he's feeling - so if he's nervous and feels awkward, he can tell her that despite the fact he feels nervous and awkward about approaching her, he finds her so attractive that he had to do it anyway.
Now you are showing her real masculine strength. You have faults, but as a man, you own your own weaknesses. You are not asking for her approval - you are just saying 'this is me, fully as I am. Take me or leave me.'
This is so different from the normal guys who approach her - either those super loud fratboy in the club types, or shy 'nice' guys who bore her silly.
Try it!
Wouldn't it be great if you could have just gone up to her confidently, and said the right thing that would have her fascinated and excited by you, instantly?
What you actually did instead though, was...nothing.
Instead you stayed where you were. And you thought about what you should say, if you ever were to go and meet her.
What would she do if I said this?
If she responds like this, what will I then say in return?
Etc.
Unfortunately by now, if you do go and speak to her, there's a good chance it will come off as weird or creepy. Why is this?
Because rather than being natural, you are stuck in your head. You are trying to force a reaction out of her.
When this happens, the woman often gets a feeling that something is off. They can't quite tell why, but it's just a feeling of 'there's something not quite right here'.
Ever seen a guy acting like he is Mr Confident? All loud and brash? Yet underneath you know he is just trying too hard, because his body language betrays him?
The girls sense this, and feel weird as a result. They then most likely label him as creepy.
So it makes a lot more sense to be honest about how you're feeling. It's also something pretty much no other guy does when he meets a girl!
So if you're not feeling that confident right now, you can tell her that. If you really wanted to meet her because you find her really attractive, but you have no clue what to say - tell her that too. I promise that you will never get a bad reaction when you approach a girl in this way.
What that means is that he approaches her and tells her exactly what he's feeling - so if he's nervous and feels awkward, he can tell her that despite the fact he feels nervous and awkward about approaching her, he finds her so attractive that he had to do it anyway.
Now you are showing her real masculine strength. You have faults, but as a man, you own your own weaknesses. You are not asking for her approval - you are just saying 'this is me, fully as I am. Take me or leave me.'
This is so different from the normal guys who approach her - either those super loud fratboy in the club types, or shy 'nice' guys who bore her silly.
Try it!
About the Author:
Chadd Pfannenstein is a grizzled veteran of the pickup community who has spent the previous decade rigorously testing every attraction system that has ever been created. He is now here to show you how to get laid simply by learning how to approach women in bars and clubs.
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