Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Feeling Angry Because Your Ex Left You?

By Sasha Peters


As painful as a breakup can be, there will come a day when you will wake up and suddenly be angry with your ex. The change can be sudden and sometimes frightening. What's all of this about and will this feeling stick with you? How can you use this emotion to help you get your ex back of move on, if that's what you decide you want to do?

Try to hold onto this emotion. It might be tempting to feel bad about getting angry with your ex. You will still have moments when you feel love and a desire to get back together with your ex but that doesn't mean that you should feel bad about your anger. You were dumped. You were rejected. Your ex isn't giving you the opportunity to make things right in your relationship and they might be acting rude. Maybe they're even with someone else and it hurts you to see them together.

Any time someone treats you badly your natural reaction should be to be angry or a little miffed, especially someone that was close to you. Can you imagine a close friend rejecting you the way that your ex has. How would you feel about that friendship and you would question that friend's character? Your ex was actually your closest friend and your best friend in the world. You feel righteous about being angry about their actions. You might even be tempted to call them up on the phone and tell them how you feel. I would suggest that you resist that urge though. There's no need to burn that bridge and you are actually going through a healing stage in your relationship.

Think of your anger as a vehicle that you can use to push you along to rebuilding your life. Your ex rejected you and now you are going to show them just what they're missing out on. In life, we all make mistakes and we all deserve forgiveness but your ex dumped you. You wouldn't do that to a friend and your ex shouldn't have done that to you. Use your anger over all of this to reinvent yourself and make your ex see that you are a pretty awesome person and then the ball will be in your court.

Let your anger be a positive force in your life. You'll show your ex! You'll get your life together and be even more wonderful than you were when you were with your ex. Make your life a life of action and self-improvement. Start feeling better about yourself and tell yourself that you deserve to be happy and anyone that doesn't respect you and value your friendship and attention isn't worth your time. Your anger is actually a sign that you are healing and starting to feel better about yourself. You reject anyone that doesn't treat you well and you only give your heart to someone that is willing to return that love and affection.

Take the day that you start to feel angry as a beginning of a new era for you. Your anger means that you are well into the healing stage and that you have some respect for yourself. You value yourself as a person and you become upset and angry when people who are supposed to love you and care for you leave you. Use your anger to move past the hurt and pain and win your ex back if that is what you want in life.




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