Friday, August 24, 2012

Breakup Woes And How To Deal With Your Emotions

By Sasha Peters


The love of your life has broken up with you and you're having a difficult time with your emotions. After this rejection by the person you love, you are bound to feel many negative emotions welling up inside of you. You feel betrayed, lost, lonely, angry and depressed, among other equally devastating emotions. Your mood might fluctuate to the point that you feel like you're going mad. One minute you love your ex with all your heart and the next you paint them as evil and you wish that you never met them. But what can be done right now to help you deal with these emotions? How can you keep from feeling completely overwhelmed and lost in your own life?

Whether you want to get back together with your ex or you are thinking that it might just be best to move on after your breakup, dealing with your emotions can be trying at times. Even though you can't physically put your hands on emotions, they are very real and very powerful. Your emotions can turn a perfectly good day into a nightmare very quickly and they can incapacitate you and keep you from really living your life. This is why it's important that you work at getting a handle on your emotions or at least learn to keep your feelings in check until you have the time to properly process then and deal with them.

You are losing precious days out of your life and you know that none of this is very healthy for you. While therapy is great if you are having a very difficult time, you often can't stop what you're doing to make an emergency trip to see your counselor. Talking to a friend about it is almost out of the question because they've either grown tired of hearing about it or they will just tell you to try to forget about it. You need a method that will work every time and help you get back on track so you can deal with it all at the end of the day, if need be.

With this method you can quiet the racket going on inside your head and even change things around in a few minutes. A quiet place such as your bedroom at home or the bathroom at work where you can be alone for a few minutes is all that is necessary. When you are alone, tell yourself that these emotions that you are having are real and that even though they are meant to help you and protect you, there is no need for them at the moment. Every single one of these emotions is based in fear and they send a signal to your body that is trying to help you avoid pain. These emotions are meant to make you take action in the same way that your brain tells your body to run when you are in a dangerous situation. Your brain is telling your body to do something immediately to aleviate the pain from your breakup. What your brain doesn't know is that things will change and you will get your ex back but it's going to take some time. You have things under control and the situation will change but rash actions aren't going to get you what you want right now.

If instance, let's say that you just found out that your ex is seeing someone. You didn't want to know this tidbit of information but it was plopped in your lap and you're upset about it. You go into the bathroom at work and you tell yourself that what you are feeling is real. It is affecting your body. This emotion is based upon the fear that you will never be able to get back together with your ex. You can tell yourself that this is only a temporary situation and nothing is written in stone. You still love your ex and you want to get back together with your ex but this complicates things a little bit. The scenarios that you are playing out in your head are not helping you to get your ex back. They are only hurting you and hindering you from that goal.

Any time you feel these emotions welling up inside of you, try this little trick. It really can help you and it can keep you from doing things that will ultimately hurt your chances of you getting back together with your ex. You will feel better, your head will be more clear and you'll be able to start living your life again and doing the things that will bring you closer to your goals. Simply understanding what these emotions are there for can completely disarm them and speed up the healing of your broken heart. You will become more positive and optimistic about your future and getting your ex back if that is what you want.




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