Question:
My boyfriend and I broke up but I really miss him and want him back. Is there anything I can say to him to get his attention and get him back?
Answer:
Getting your ex boyfriend back is all about one thing: making him want you back. Regardless of what happened in the past and how you ended your relationship, nothing's going to change until your ex boyfriend misses you. When he starts to reflect on your relationship and the happy times you had together will he be open to the idea of getting back together again. And as an ex girlfriend who wants him back, it's your job to get him to that point.
The Most Common Mistakes Women Make:
A common mistake that women make when they're trying to get back together with an ex boyfriend is that they engage in activities that only make themselves feel good without thinking how it affects their ex boyfriend. This can include things like: regularly calling him or constantly sending him texts or emails. Also, if you've ever written your ex boyfriend a love letter or bought him a card, you've inadvertantly fallen into the trap of focusing on yourself instead of him. Try doing this instead. Put yourself in your ex's shoes instead of focusing your efforts on things that only make you happy. It's important to give your boyfriend some time and space to himself in the aftermath of the breakup. In the end, fighting the breakup by trying to keep the lines of communication open with him will only make things worse for you and make him like you less.
Getting Your Boyfriend Interested In You Again
Contrary to what you might think, one of the most powerful ways to get your ex boyfriend interested in you again is to do nothing. This means no phone calls, emails or texts. The less you do now, the less you'll need to do later - and you'll see what I mean by that.
Typically what happens after a breakup is that women fight to try and keep the relationship alive no matter what. However, you're not going to do this. You're going to do the complete opposite and accept the breakup instead of trying to keep it alive.
What happens next is nothing short of amazing. By dropping off the map and not contacting your ex, he actually starts to think about and miss you and so he'll make up an excuse to contact you.
Let me take you into the mind of your ex boyfriend when you do this:
" Whenever I breakup with a girl the last thing I want is to hear from her all the time because I know I can have her back whenever I want.
But when I stop hearing from her I start to wonder what she's been up to and so I'll start to wonder if I made the right choice by breaking up with her.
Just know that he's going to come calling under the guise that he's simply coming to pick something up or just want to see how you're doing and what you've been up to. I guarantee that he'll be curious to know you've been up to and so he's going to call you to see what you've been doing. And when he does, you need to know what to say.
3 Ways to successfully handle your ex boyfriend's phone call or visit after a breakup
1. Show a little excitement...but not too much. When your ex boyfriend contacts you, show a little excitment..but not too much at first. You don't want to give away your position and true intentions of really wanting him back. Showing a little excitment will make you desirealbe in his eyes, and it's natural to want things we can't have. Make yourself something that your ex boyfriend can't have.
2. Let him talk first. Don't jump the gun at this point. Let your boyfriend do the talking first and give him the chance to explain the reason for his phone call or visit. By allowing your ex boyfriend to initiate the conversation you remove the possibility of making mistakes. Also, you lure him into the more awkward position of making conversation. Pretty sneaky eh?
3. Secretly take control of the situation.If, during your conversation your ex suggests a casual get together, don't completely commit to it. Instead say something like: “Yeah, I think that is probably okay. Call me next week though, and we will see.â€
Do you realize what you've just done here? By not committing to a date but keeping the door open, you're making him call you and set the date. How cool is that!
Here's what else you've done without knowing it. Your ex fully expected that you'd be very excited to see him since you haven't spoken in so long, but you crushed his expectations by only being a little excited. As a result, you've given him the feeling that you're not too interested in him. And for all he knows, you've moved on from him and are interested in someone else.
Turning His World Upside Down
Do you want to turn your ex boyfriend's world around? Secretly he's worried that you're totally over him. He's got no idea what's going on or what to expect because you've done the opposite of what he thought you'd do. Maybe he even regrets the fact that he didn't leave the door open a crack for reconcilliation?
But guess what, you've just slammed the door in his face. You have put him out of his comfort zone, and made your ex boyfriend face the fact that he can not play games with you at this moment. So now he's left with two choices. Either he makes some moves to get you back, or he loses you forever.
My boyfriend and I broke up but I really miss him and want him back. Is there anything I can say to him to get his attention and get him back?
Answer:
Getting your ex boyfriend back is all about one thing: making him want you back. Regardless of what happened in the past and how you ended your relationship, nothing's going to change until your ex boyfriend misses you. When he starts to reflect on your relationship and the happy times you had together will he be open to the idea of getting back together again. And as an ex girlfriend who wants him back, it's your job to get him to that point.
The Most Common Mistakes Women Make:
A common mistake that women make when they're trying to get back together with an ex boyfriend is that they engage in activities that only make themselves feel good without thinking how it affects their ex boyfriend. This can include things like: regularly calling him or constantly sending him texts or emails. Also, if you've ever written your ex boyfriend a love letter or bought him a card, you've inadvertantly fallen into the trap of focusing on yourself instead of him. Try doing this instead. Put yourself in your ex's shoes instead of focusing your efforts on things that only make you happy. It's important to give your boyfriend some time and space to himself in the aftermath of the breakup. In the end, fighting the breakup by trying to keep the lines of communication open with him will only make things worse for you and make him like you less.
Getting Your Boyfriend Interested In You Again
Contrary to what you might think, one of the most powerful ways to get your ex boyfriend interested in you again is to do nothing. This means no phone calls, emails or texts. The less you do now, the less you'll need to do later - and you'll see what I mean by that.
Typically what happens after a breakup is that women fight to try and keep the relationship alive no matter what. However, you're not going to do this. You're going to do the complete opposite and accept the breakup instead of trying to keep it alive.
What happens next is nothing short of amazing. By dropping off the map and not contacting your ex, he actually starts to think about and miss you and so he'll make up an excuse to contact you.
Let me take you into the mind of your ex boyfriend when you do this:
" Whenever I breakup with a girl the last thing I want is to hear from her all the time because I know I can have her back whenever I want.
But when I stop hearing from her I start to wonder what she's been up to and so I'll start to wonder if I made the right choice by breaking up with her.
Just know that he's going to come calling under the guise that he's simply coming to pick something up or just want to see how you're doing and what you've been up to. I guarantee that he'll be curious to know you've been up to and so he's going to call you to see what you've been doing. And when he does, you need to know what to say.
3 Ways to successfully handle your ex boyfriend's phone call or visit after a breakup
1. Show a little excitement...but not too much. When your ex boyfriend contacts you, show a little excitment..but not too much at first. You don't want to give away your position and true intentions of really wanting him back. Showing a little excitment will make you desirealbe in his eyes, and it's natural to want things we can't have. Make yourself something that your ex boyfriend can't have.
2. Let him talk first. Don't jump the gun at this point. Let your boyfriend do the talking first and give him the chance to explain the reason for his phone call or visit. By allowing your ex boyfriend to initiate the conversation you remove the possibility of making mistakes. Also, you lure him into the more awkward position of making conversation. Pretty sneaky eh?
3. Secretly take control of the situation.If, during your conversation your ex suggests a casual get together, don't completely commit to it. Instead say something like: “Yeah, I think that is probably okay. Call me next week though, and we will see.â€
Do you realize what you've just done here? By not committing to a date but keeping the door open, you're making him call you and set the date. How cool is that!
Here's what else you've done without knowing it. Your ex fully expected that you'd be very excited to see him since you haven't spoken in so long, but you crushed his expectations by only being a little excited. As a result, you've given him the feeling that you're not too interested in him. And for all he knows, you've moved on from him and are interested in someone else.
Turning His World Upside Down
Do you want to turn your ex boyfriend's world around? Secretly he's worried that you're totally over him. He's got no idea what's going on or what to expect because you've done the opposite of what he thought you'd do. Maybe he even regrets the fact that he didn't leave the door open a crack for reconcilliation?
But guess what, you've just slammed the door in his face. You have put him out of his comfort zone, and made your ex boyfriend face the fact that he can not play games with you at this moment. So now he's left with two choices. Either he makes some moves to get you back, or he loses you forever.
About the Author:
So what can you say to get your ex boyfriend back? As little as possible. Hopefully you see the value in doing nothing when it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back. Since you're not going after him he's going to be curious as to what you've been upto. And if he loves or still wants you back in the slightest he'll make the next move because the ball is now in his court.
