Thursday, September 29, 2011

Finding The Answer - Why Do Men Cheat?

By Joe Maldonado


Infidelity is shocking and even more shocking are the reasons or the causes of infidelity and the most shocking of all are the effects of infidelity but speaking about any of these will leave pages after pages of descriptions, which definitely remains outside the scope of this article and hence, we will concentrate to one topic and that is, "why do men cheat?"

It will become a generalized questions and hence, it will be cynical to keep it that way. It is true that men cheat but not all of them cheats. But those who cheat can have multiple reasons for doing so. Let us discuss them one by one but before that, let us learn a shocking reality about cheating men!
"Most of the women think that men are unhappy or they are cheating because they are not getting enough sex and hence, they opine that giving sex to their men will solve all problems! This is NOT TRUE! It is true that not getting enough sex is one of the reasons of cheating but there is a problem more profound than this. Men often seek emotional support but they hardly say that. Most of the men have a common motive and that is of providing the family with a happy and comfortable life and in an urge to achieve that, they work hard and sweat in and out. A small affirmation and appreciation from their wives that they are just doing great can be enough to keep them going and be loyal!"

So, for men, on one hand when it is about sex, on the other hand, it is also about emotion. Humans, aren't they? If they don't cry easily or don't say things loud it does not mean that they are machines and don't have emotions! Apart from the above mention reason, there are other reasons as well which answers the question, "why do men cheat?" Let us explore a few of those reasons:
- Many men cheat because in the middle of a relationship they think that they are not ready for commitment.
- Most of the men want to have different sex partners because they are genetically engineered to be able to have sex with different women in a short period of time.
- The sexual drive of their women may have decreased after marriage.
- The communication with their wives or girlfriends are not up to the mark and this may force a man to cheat.
- There are men who cheat because they do not take their relationship seriously.
- Their girlfriends and wives are just nor ready to do things which men want to try out during sexual encounters and hence, this can lead to infidelity.
- Certain men with low self-esteem feel that having sex with multiple women can boost up their ego and this becomes are reason for cheating.

There are various other socio-economic reasons as well which explain, "why to men cheat?" but again, discussing those issues remain outside the scope of this article.




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